Thursday, January 25, 2007

The Break-Up

Goodbye 2007, where the hell are you 2008?

Hello friends, I have missed you all. Terribly sorry for disappearing on everyone. The reason was three-fold:

1) Things kinda hit rock-bottom in my personal life. All the while, my writing partner and I were juggling four feature projects, as well as prepping for staffing season, so the little will power I had went to writing.

2) I'd only been home five days in the past three weeks. Between flying to Chicago for the family, flying to PA to see the girlfriend, and Greyhounding it to NY for my well-being, it's been a bit hectic.

3) While visiting the lady in PA, I was dumped. I took it pretty hard to say the least.

But ultimately, I think we all know that the real reason I've been standing on high ledges lately is because The OC's last day is quickly approaching. WTF, Fox. At least let them finish out a full season. W.T.F.

But I'm back now, bitches. And in the words of one of the greatest lyricists of the 20th century, Chumbawumba, "I get knocked down, but I get up again. You're never gonna keep me down."

On a side note, the break-up occured on the same day Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake called it quits. Apparently, Drew Barrymore and Fabrizio are done as well. I know, I know, stock up on bottled water, stay indoors, the end is very f-in nigh.

According to this blog, the research in a recent survey indicates that "most people reasses their relationships at the beginning of the year - between New Years and Valentine's Day," and January 11th, the day of my dumping, which Yahoo! has decided to dub National Break Up Day, is "the peak day for hitting bottom." Awesome. It feels good to be a statistic.

I don't know how personal I want to get on here, but a friend of mine suggested blogging about it, seeing as how I actually met Ms. X through this blog. The story puts the movie, The Break-Up (B), to shame (which you should rent sometime, it is painfully realistic). Our tale starts with a lot of good, ends with a lot of bad, but in terms of specifics, I suppose there's no point in airing out dirty laundry. Actually, I probably would air it out had it been something insignificant, like dirty socks, but this is like the "boxers with cutesy hearts, arrows and 'i heart [significant others' name]' across the back that life swipes from you to shat upon multiple times only to return with a note that reads 'she never loved you'" kind of laundry. What? You don't have a pair like that?

One of the worst post-break-up symptoms is having every single insignificant thing remind you of the other person. For example, the other day, I was walking down the street and saw a sign for "Fruits and Vegetables," my ex is a vegetarian. Down another block and I spot a Duane Reade, my ex reads (yes, literacy is one of my many high standards). Down the street some more and I see an Arabic sign I could not understand, but I'm told it said, "Nothing In This World Will Ever Stop the Pang You Feel In Your Chest Right Now... Deli."

But getting serious for a moment, I actually do care about this person still. A lot. Though I was the one being dumped, I think it has been equally brutal for both parties. And now this blog really is sounding like a 14 year-old's LiveJournal.

So anyway, if I'm not gonna go into juicy details, then why bring this up at all on here?

Well, click below, and I can tell you one positive outcome for you readers in all of this:

THE BREAK-UP MIX
Crushing My Silly Pipe Dreams '07

That's right folks, a break-up mix. I have enough favorites to fill a thousand cds, it's taken me hours just to narrow it down to these 75 songs. Yes, I overpack for trips too. This isn't necessarily a list of my favorites (songs like "With or Without You" and "Pictures of You" would be on a favorite list), but rather, just a handful of songs I thought you would enjoy, songs that track the different post-break-up stages. They don't necessarily reflect the thoughts and opinions of yours truly, though some certainly do. Whether you've been the breaker or the breakee, leave a comment and let me know your favorite songs and sob stories!

P.S. If you liked this post, you might also like "Love is a Mix-Tape" by Rob Sheffield. Read it, and let me know!

P.P.S. I know many of you were just hoping for latest episode tracks, but I still have to catch up with my DVR. You can break my legs later.

1. "I'm Going Down" - Bruce Springsteen [buy album]
A pre-break-up song. The dude knows it's coming... "I pull you close, but when we kiss I can feel a doubt. I remember back when we started, my kisses used to turn you inside out. I used to drive you to work in the morning, Friday night I'd drive you all around. You used to love to drive me wild, but lately girl, you get your kicks from just driving me down."

2. "This Mess We're In" - PJ Harvey (w/Thom Yorke) [buy album]

3. "It's Time" - Elvis Costello [buy album]
My all time favorite break-up song by, on most days, my favorite artist. How great are these lyrics? Well not "great" as in "yay, it's so great this is happening to me," but rather, "wow, spot on, that was great."

4. "Fireflies" - Rhett Miller (w/Rachael Yamagata) [buy album]

5. "If You Leave" - Nada Surf (OMD cover) [buy album]
Like most 25 year old males, I naturally think of "The Goodbye Girl" episode of the OC. Great cover. If you read the blog regularly, you already know of my undying love for all things Nada Surf, you should also check out their version of "There Is A Light That Never Goes Out."

6. "Seen It All Before" - Amos Lee [buy album]
I usually find all the "Starbucks" artists kinda eh, but this man can sing. "Go ahead baby, run away again. Growing tired of chasing you. I know you only have time to love me, you've got nothing better to do."

7. "Lost Cause" - Beck [buy album]
This song would be WAY up there on a favorite break-up songs list. This entire album would. Utterly depressing and honest, it's my favorite Beck album. I've always enjoyed the video too.

8. "Good Woman" - Cat Power [buy album]
How I want to remember the ex.

9. "Communication" - The Cardigans [buy album]
For those of you that have dismissed The Cardigans as a one-hit wonder with "Love Fool," you are bad, bad people. They have some amazing songs in their catalogue. This is one of them.

10. "A Letter to Elise" - The Cure [buy album]
I almost decided to do all Cure and Smiths songs for this list. But then one of you would've offed yourself, and I just didn't want to be held responsible for that. Seriously though, how awesome is this song? Way up there on the best break-up songs of all time list.

11. "The Bleeding Heart Show" - The New Pornographers [buy album]
My favorite New Pornographers track, the ending of this song blows my mind every time. Not exactly sure what the song's about, but it involves a bleeding heart, so it works.

12. "Gone for Good" - The Shins [buy album]

13. "Last Goodbye" - Jeff Buckley [buy album]
Has this song ever not been on a break-up mix?

14. "Where It Ends" - Boy In Static
Boy In Static is an amazing emerging artist; he is also a good friend from college I used to play music with, back when he was better known as Alex Chen. He was on The Notwist's European label and recently switched over to Mush Records. In the past two years, he's released his first album and toured US and Europe with 13 & God (side project of The Notwist and Themselves). This track, a song he actually wrote prior to a break-up, is going to be on his upcoming album, Violet, which hits stores May 29th, so go show some love! In the meantime, check out his myspace, especially his lyrics.

15. "Look What You've Done" - Jet [buy album]
Sure, it's a blatant Beatles ripoff, but it's a good ripoff.

16. "Caroline No" - The Wedding Present (Beach Boys cover)

17. "Excuse Me While I Break My Own Heart Tonight" - Whiskeytown [buy album]

18. "For No One (live)" - Elliott Smith (Beatles cover)
I wanted to post the Beatles song, but I'm pretty sure I'd get sued. Next best thing is an Elliott Smith's Beatles cover. Also check out his cover of Lennon's "Jealous Guy."

19. "Telescope Eyes" - Eisley [buy album]

20. "Let It Die" - Feist [buy album]
As you'll see, there are a handful of OC songs on this list. If only my life were a teen dramedy and my rebound girl could be an Olivia Wilde who likes to make out with other girls.

21. "Get Me Away From Here, I'm Dying" - Belle & Sebastian [buy album]
Love the lyrics. "Here on my own now after hours, here on my own now on a bus." That was me last week, on a Greyhound at 3 a.m. from Harrisburg to NY, sitting behind two gentlemen openly talking about drug deals gone wrong.

22. "One Foot In Front Of The Other" - Bright Eyes [buy album]
I was debating between this and "I Believe in Symmetry" as my sole Bright Eyes contribution, but the lyrics for this song won out. Also check out "I've Been Eating (For You)".

23. "My Heart Is The Worst Kind Of Weapon" - Fall Out Boy [buy album]
I can't hide it, I absolutely love Fall Out Boy. Hmm, maybe that's why I got dumped...

24. "Rootless Tree" - Damien Rice [buy album]
The chorus: "Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, and all we've been through." I heart subtlety.

25. "Dog Problems" - The Format [buy album]
The Format is one of the most underrated bands out there right now. Their first album was pretty good, but they've really matured with their latest. Also check out "I'm Actual," "Inches and Falling," and "If Work Permits." They also put on my favorite concert of 2006.

26. "Die, Die My Darling" - The Misfits [buy album]

27. "Bitches Ain't Shit" - Ben Folds (Dr. Dre cover) [buy album]
If we're going through the five stages of grief here, this would be under Acceptance. I kid, I suppose this goes under Anger. One of my favorite covers ever. Of course, can't mention Ben Folds and break-ups without referencing "Song for the Dumped". Last week, I lived out the line, "Wish I hadn't bought you dinner right before you dumped me on your front porch."

28. "Happier" - Guster [buy album]

29. "Blue in the Face" - Alkaline Trio [buy album]
Every break-up mix should have some form of Alkaline Trio on there.

30. "Against All Odds" - The Postal Service (Phil Collins cover) [buy album]

31. "And So It Goes" - Billy Joel [buy album]
Saddest. Song. Ever.

32. "Last Night I Dreamt That Somebody Loved Me" - Grant Lee Phillips (Smiths cover) [buy album]
Grant Lee also did a great cover of The Cure's "Boys Don't Cry" (another song I wanted to post), which was featured on How I Met Your Mother.

33. "Pain In My Heart" - Otis Redding [buy album]
And this is where we enter the Depression stage of grieving.

34. "Unspoken Words" - Showoff [buy album]
My friend Devin introduced me to this song. I believe at the time it had helped him through a break-up. Way to pay it forward, Dev. I hate you. Check out the group's myspace for another good pop-punk post-break-up song, "Turn Out The Lights."

35. "Love Hurts" - Roy Orbison (Boudleaux Bryant cover) [buy album]
I suppose I could've posted the Cher or Nazareth version, but I know we all love us some Orbison.

36. "The World Has Turned and Left Me Here" - Weezer [buy album]
The Blue Album never gets old. A million memories associated with this album.

37. "Since You're Gone" - The Cars [buy album]

38. "Another Lonely Day" - Ben Harper [buy album]

39. "Take It Down" - Patty Griffin
"Tears all rusted on my face, and I'm just an empty place, where your love used to fit." Awesome.

40. "What Can I Say" - Brandi Carlile [buy album]
Brandi, I know how you feel, call me.

41. "Crying (live)" - Jimmy Gnecco (Roy Orbison cover)
Hands down, Jimmy Gnecco, lead singer of Ours, has the best male voice in the history of contemporary music. Recordings do not do him justice. GO SEE HIM LIVE.

42. "What Difference Does It Make?" - The Smiths [buy album]
All Smiths songs are great for the broken-hearted, so I just picked one out of a hat. Fortuantely, this happens to be one of my favs. I also wouldn't have minded "I Know It's Over."

43. "Toby Take A Bow" - Casiotone For The Painfully Alone [buy album]
Speaking of the Smiths, gotta love the lyrics here: "I've never seen you so awful, I found you at the bottom of a Russian novel. Gold medal and a crown, a cardigan and a frown. So maladjusted and clever, the greatest Smiths fan ever."

44. "Burn" - Ray LaMontagne [buy album]

45. "God Give Me Strength (live)" - Elvis Costello
Written for the movie "Grace of My Heart", the lyrics are painful and amazing. I think I remember first hearing this when Costello performed it live on Letterman and being rendered speechless. Still need to Netflix "Grace of My Heart". Anyone seen it? I also recommend the following: "I Hope You're Happy Now," "She," "I Want To Vanish," "Big Tears," "Indoor Fireworks," and every song Costello has ever written. With the exception of a few tracks off of "Goodbye Cruel World."

46. "You Have Killed Me" - Morrissey [buy album]
I don't get any of the references to the Italian figures in this song, but all I need to hear is the repetition of "you have killed me, you have killed me" and I'm right there with ya, Morrissey.

47. "It's a Motherfucker" - Eels [buy album]
Also listen to "I'm Going To Stop Pretending That I Didn't Break Your Heart".

48. "Oh, Lonesome Me" - Neil Young (Don Gibson cover) [buy album]
I like the line, "I'll bet she's not like me, she's out and fancy free. Flirting with boys with all her charms, but I still love her so, and brother don't you know, I'd welcome her right back here in my arms."

49. "Lost In Time" - Stellastarr* [buy album]
Lyrically, "On My Own" is probably their best break-up song, but I wanted to ease you readers into the wonderfulness that is Stellastarr*. My ex actually introduced me to their music, so at the very least, I know we met for a reason. The Smiths meets U2 with a female bassist who sings? How had I gone so long without them?? Check out this song, then go see them live on their upcoming tour. Anyone in LA wanna check them out on Feb.7th?

50. "Graduation Day" - Chris Isaak [buy album]

51. "You Are My Sunshine" - Johnny Cash (Jimmie Davis or Rice Brothers? cover) [buy album]
Also wanted to go with "I Still Miss Someone" and "Cry, Cry, Cry".

52. "There Is A Light That Never Goes Out" - Joseph Arthur (Smiths cover) [buy album]

53. "Love of My Life" - Queen [buy album]
Another group that my ex opened my eyes too. Sure, I had enjoyed Queen prior to meeting her, but I hadn't fully explored the Queen catalogue. Freddie Mercury was a god amongst men. I said above that Jimmy Gnecco has the best voice in the history of contemporary music, but Freddie is a very, very close #2.

54. "Can't Let Go" - Lucinda Williams [buy album]

55. "I Want You" - The Kooks [buy album]

56. "Nothing Better" - The Postal Service [buy album]
Love the lyrics, the back and forth between the guy and girl. Of course, it's the girl that's leaving. What? Ladies are leavers, it's true. You look up 'leaver' in the dictionary, and right there next to it is a picture of ladies.

57. "I Don't Want To Get Over You" - The Magnetic Fields [buy album]
Another drastically underrated band. Their three-volume album, "69 Love Songs," can pretty much get you through any up or down of a relationship. I was torn between this track and "All My Little Words" for this post, but I decided to go a little light-hearted instead. And by a little light-hearted, I mean still pretty depressing.

58. "I Just Don't Think I'll Ever Get Over You" - Colin Hay [buy album]

59. "You've Got To Hide Your Love Away" - Eddie Vedder (Beatles cover) [buy album]

60. "Do What You Have To Do" - Sarah McLachlan [buy album]
I know what you're thinking. Fall Out Boy, John Mayer and Sarah McLachlan all on one mix? I'm starting to realize why I'm again single, it's all making sense now. But come on, you know you've listened to the entire Surfacing album in one sitting, right before you settled down to crochet while watching A Walk To Remember. No? I'm the only one? Mother of God.

61. "I'll Miss You" - Ween [buy album]

62. "Dry Your Eyes" - The Streets [buy album]
What my life looks like these days. Well, add smog, traffic, and a lot of annoying people everywhere.

63. "Recovery Room" - The Jealous Sound [buy album]

64. "Pretty Pathetic" - Smoking Popes [buy album]

65. "Since U Been Gone" - Ted Leo (Kelly Clarkson cover)
I've yet to meet anyone that doesn't like (or secretly like) this Kelly Clarkson song. If you don't, let's never meet.

66. "We're Just Friends" - Wilco [buy album]

67. "Winter" - Joshua Radin [buy album]
I loved the use of this song on the "My Screw Up" episode of Scrubs.

68. "Dear Chicago" - Ryan Adams [buy album]

69. "Comfortable" - John Mayer [buy album]
John Mayer recently blogged a solution to all the recent Grey's Anatomy backstage drama: Make Dr. Burke Gay. Love that idea. Also love these lyrics.

70. "Daisychains" - Youth Group [buy album]
Also featured on "The Summer Bummer" episode of the OC.

71. "Your Ex-Lover Is Dead" - Stars [buy album]

72. "Somebody That I Used To Know" - Elliott Smith [buy album]
Elliott's got a plethora of heartache songs to choose from, actually wait, that's the only type of songs he has to choose from. This is his ultimate "I'm over you" song though. You also can't go wrong with "Waltz #1", "Waltz #2", "Miss Misery"... the list is endless.

73. "If You See Her, Say Hello" - Bob Dylan [buy album]
It was tough keeping it to one Dylan song for this mix. He has so many brilliant lyrics about love gone wrong. "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright," "Abandoned Love," "I Threw It All Away," "Farewell Angelina".... all genius. What's your favorite Dylan track?

74. "It'll All Work Out" - Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers [buy album]
The lyrics are perfection. Almost makes me want to rent Elizabethtown (a movie my ex and I had been meaning to watch together). While we're talking Tom Petty, you should also check out "Change of Heart."

75. "You Can't Always Get What You Want" - Rolling Stones [buy album]
But you get what you need. Sing it brother, sing it.

*EDIT: Some GREAT recommendations in the comments. Thank you all. I've even posted two new links in the comment section, but I had to add one here that I had completely overlooked until I was reminded tonight; it definitely needs to be on this break-up mix:
76. "I Fall To Pieces" - Patsy Cline

VIDEO BONUS

We Are Scientists "covering" one of the best break-up songs of all time.


While we're doing ridiculous covers, here's my junior high friend, Jesse Lukes, performing his awesome take on Britney Spears' "Hit Me Baby One More Time."


One of my favorite scenes from The Office.


My favorite scene from The Office.


After watching the above Office clip, it's almost impossible not to laugh during this music video. Good to see Mischa again though, reminds me of the earlier seasons of the OC. Ah, such simpler times. Simpler times.


I just wanted to post this so I could quote: "Love doesn't exist, that's what I'm trying to tell you guys. And I'm not picking on love, 'cause I don't think friendship exists either."

68 Comments:

Blogger Jase said...

damn dude. bummer about your other half mate. i can really sympathise with you on the 'insignificant reminders of ex'. That totally happened to me with one of my ex's. I was like, "Life, would you just f**k off for once and let me mope in solitude?!?!"
anyhoo, awesome work with the tunes. Hope to see an update sooner.

And I am soooo bummed about the O.C. too! Bloody nitwits at fox. That's right. No capital letters for you stupid network.

5:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Bummer dude.


Anyone know the 2nd song in the Wedding Crasher credits? "Sweetheart" I think.

6:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry the beginning of the year has been so shitty for you. Get it all over with now and the rest of the year has nowhere to go but up.

6:19 AM  
Anonymous abyss said...

better times are coming... i think...

try watching the oc season 1... its a good drug! ;)

6:32 AM  
Anonymous Jessica said...

I'm sorry things didn't work out ... but we all still love you!

6:36 AM  
Blogger Nele said...

Hi there! I'm new to your blog and I already love it! Thanks for all the songs! I'm really sorry that this year is already sucky for you, even though it just started. Anyway, you rock and I'll definitely add you as a myspace friend!

7:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm glad your back, even under the circumstances. Relationships are so hard, especially when things get hectic. But it's a new year with better things to come. You just got all the crap out of the way in the beginning.

7:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey, take some time to wallow and mope and really feel this break. and then pick yourself back up, because it gets better. promise. this mix is incredible-- you made my day! thanks so much. i'm loving it.

9:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm sorry to hear what happend. i hope things quickly get better for you. and yes i'm terribly sad that the OC is ending very soon. thank you so much for the songs! i'm glad you're back too. hope you feel better soon, take a day off or something! :)

9:49 AM  
Anonymous Marina said...

Hey Sonny!

Sucks about the breakup. You've got a lot of fans out here in interwebland so that equals lots of love and support! :)

Thanks for opening your self up to us and sharing great music!

11:17 AM  
Anonymous Patrick Walsh said...

I know I turned you on to a few of these, so let me throw another jewel at you. "Album of the Year" by The Good Life, which is an acoustic offshoot of the band Cursive.

AMAZING, miserable song, which chronicles a relationship from first meeting to breakup in five minutes.

11:41 AM  
Blogger Captain Oats said...

Jase, glad you liked the tunes.

Anonymous, I believe you are thinking of the song "Sweetheart" by Jont.

Hello Anon, thanks for the encouragement. Definitely agree, we can only go up from- and my computer just died.

Hi Abyss, have you ever tried watching the OC Season One on drugs? I think that's the only way I'd ever be able to sit through an Oliver episode. I miss him in an odd way.

Jessica, thanks for the love!

Nele, welcome to Silly Pipe Dreams, where all your dreams come true. We are officially myspace friends!!

Hey Anonymous, thanks for the kind words. I totally agree. Last year, my year started off great and ended shitty. So perhaps 2007'll be the opposite. One silver lining is that things are starting to pick up again in the writing career.

Hi Anon, glad you loved the mix! Favorite songs?

Hello Anon, thanks for the comment, you're welcome for the songs. I've taken enough days off I think.. (I seriously had gone 25 days without posting? I am sort of ashamed.)

Hey Marina, thanks for the love and support. Hope you liked the tunes.

Patrick Walsh, old friend, I love Cursive, and you've never failed me with your recommendations, so I downloaded "Album of the Year." And now I feel empty inside. I love it. The lyrics are perfect.

12:57 PM  
Blogger Captain Oats said...

So I thought I'd leave some goodness for people that actually read through the comments.

Here's the track that P. Walsh mentioned above, the lyrics are great: http://sillypipedreams.net/mp3/breakup/01%20Album%20Of%20The%20Year.mp3

Also, here's another another reader recommended. "Haligh, Haligh, A Lie, Haligh" by Bright Eyes:
http://sillypipedreams.net/mp3/breakup/08%20Haligh,%20Haligh,%20A%20Lie,%20Haligh.mp3

Enjoy.

1:20 PM  
Blogger Jane said...

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup...but boy, the music is good. I think you should ask your friends to give you a referral fee--I LOVE Boy in Static. This is the first I've heard of him, and I grew up and am still living close to Boston.

Also, do you have any recommendations as to the best Eels album to try? I really liked the track you put up, and I've always read good reviews of them, but just never sought them out until now. Oh, one more thing--is it just me, or does PJ Harvey's voice just completely beat Thom Yorke's?

2:08 PM  
Blogger NYOne said...

Hey there Captain Oats,
Happy to have you back and all the great music, even though the circumstances clearly suck. It's like when you go to a funeral, and obviously it's incredibly sad but you see someone that you haven't seen in forever and it's wonderful to catch up with them.
Now that I've brought the room down with that lovely metaphor, I wanted to suggest "Say Hello Wave Goodbye" by David Gray as my personal saddest break-up song ever.
Just remember that your friends out here in the Wide Wide World of Web are pulling for you. Keep us all posted on how you're doing, and let us know when you're ready for suggestions of picking-yourself-up-dusting-yourself-off-starting-all-over-again songs. Mine would be jimmy eat world's "The Middle".
Oh, and in the same vein as Jane's comment above, I loved the Douglas Armour song "Prince of Wands" from VM a while back. Any suggestions on where to get his CD? Amazon and iTunes were a no go, and I couldn't tell from his MySpace page. But yes, these folks should definitely be paying you some kind of PR commission. Anyway, thanks as always!

2:21 PM  
Anonymous Megan said...

Sucks about the breakup. Thanks for putting all these great songs up though. In my book, wallowing in sad music is the best thing for a broken heart. Then after awhile you peel yourself up off the couch/bed/floor and try to move on.
Sometimes I wish you could just montage past the difficult stuff in life like they do in movies. But then I guess you wouldnt be really living.
Anyway good luck moving on. You need to take a girl to Jamica a la Michael Scott. Or maybe pick up a coupple of waitresses you cant tell apart.

2:38 PM  
Blogger Rebecca said...

i'm so sorry about your break up... she must be nuts!

we love you!

thanks for all the amazing music. you're amazing.

2:44 PM  
Blogger Swishy said...

Breakups are the suckiest of the sucky. Hang in there!

2:48 PM  
Anonymous megan said...

I would also add "Mexico" by Jump (formerly Jump Little Children) to the list. Very pretty song.

I also had some typos above that are annoying me now, namely "Jamaica" and "couple." Yeah, Im anal like that.

3:02 PM  
Anonymous me said...

Hey Captain Oats!really sorry about the breakup,but little by little it will get better..it's good to write about it though,isn't it??we're here for you!
thanks for all the tunes,really great and depressing,which is good sometimes..9 crimes by Damien Rice is really sad too, or Temptation by Moby (it's a slow song) and wonderwall by Oasis,although the Ryan Adams cover is good also..well there is a looot of sad songs out there.
the office bits were hilarious, i've just recently started watching that show and it's great!
thank you for all the songs and cheer up =)

3:09 PM  
Anonymous Josh said...

Really sorry to hear about the breakup, man. I know how that feels. Not fun at all.

Thanks a lot for the break-up list. Some awesome choices there.

I too am seriously devastated about the OC ending so soon.

3:12 PM  
Blogger Mo Diggs said...

Sorry to hear about the news. If she goes for Piz I promise to shoot a flaming arrow through his chest.

I know I suck at consoling people. Good to see you back and thanks for the tunes.

3:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry about the break-up, but I love 14 year old you. Thanks for all the great music as always.

When you get caught up with your Tivo you must come talk about Grey's and Alex/Addison

4:04 PM  
Anonymous Brandon said...

Sorry to hear about the breakup. The same thing happened to me about the same time last year, and it turned out to be for the best. It sucks now, but it'll get better.

A couple of songs for you to check out is "Legendary" by Lou Barlow and "Honestly" by Cary Brothers.

4:09 PM  
Blogger LovelyAnomaly said...

Hey Cap't. Sending good thoughts your way.

And if you're still the 14-year-old Capt, then you might appreciate the cheesy line from "Hope Floats."

"...beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it's the middle that counts the most. Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning. Just give hope a chance to float up. And it will... "

4:32 PM  
Anonymous Krissi said...

Cap't, oh Cap't . . . Man, I am so sorry about your break-up; that just sux -- BIG TIME!

Well, ya know what? Her loss! And while you're hurting now, "[You] Will Survive" as the old disco tune goes! In the meantime, you can always hum the song I carried with me for a bit post break-up: "Love Stinks!"

Hang in there, Cap't, okay??

4:37 PM  
Blogger Vaedri said...

Sorry things have been so awful - thanks for channeling your pain so creatively, though! Hope the music helps you as much as all of us.

5:10 PM  
Anonymous caroleen said...

Playing Carole King's "It's Too Late" over and over again at top volume got me through my worst breakup a few years ago. Best wishes...

5:21 PM  
Blogger tiff said...

I swear my breakup mix included at least have these songs.

my heart is with you brother!

8:25 PM  
Blogger michelle said...

just wanted to say thanks for the songs. i love breakup songs because it's kinda like, hey...my life is just as shitty as theirs. or shittier.

good luck getting through the breakup...and remember to take as much time as you need/want. and once the inevitable "hey, you should meet this girl" or "stop wallowing, come out and drink" comments start coming your way, feel free to tell them to piss off if you feel like wallowing and don't wanna go out and would much rather just sit around in your pajamas and eat peanut butter all day.

but i do hope that the rest of the year is better for you. cause you deserve it. thanks again for the songs. :)

8:32 PM  
Anonymous Nic said...

Long distance relationships are hard. Give California some time - although, yes, people here skew towards the vapid, the few "good" people are worth knowning...

As for some good, depressing music to wallow in - this might sound odd, but I really love Maggie Gyllenhaal's voice. She has a few songs in the Happy Endings soundtrack.

Check out: How Lucky Am I and Just the Way You are.

9:49 PM  
Anonymous Krissi said...

I forgot to mention how much I appreciate and love the tunage . . . I'm just sorry it came out of a sad experience for you.

10:01 PM  
Blogger Scribe LA said...

Awe, Sonny. Virtual hug. Great break-up choices. I also like David Gray's "Say Hello, Wave Goodbye" and Coldplay's "The Scientist". Both songs make me ache.
I wish I could make February your January, that way your year wouldn't be starting off this way... but maybe it's for the best, as break-up's usually are.
Scribe

12:21 AM  
Blogger Captain Oats said...

Hi Jane, so glad you love Boy in Static! Tell all your friends! You bring up a good point with the referral fee, hmm..

Hmm, best Eels album... well, a lot of people like their first one, Beautiful Freak... I actually find that most of the songs I listen to are off of Shootenanny!, so you might wanna check that one out. They also have a nice cover of "Can't Help Falling in Love" on their B-Sides & Rarities album... okay, so I just listed a lot of things here, probably didn't help narrow it down. =)

And yes, PJ Harvey's voice is hot tamales.

NYOne, happy to be back! You know, "Say Hello Wave Goodbye" was one of the last songs that didn't quite make the cut for this mix! I love that song... David Gray is wonderful... my fav of his is probably "Ain't No Love" off his latest album. I unfortunately don't know where to buy Douglas Armour's music... funny that he doesn't have links on his myspace, interesting. I like "Fall Apart Again."

Megan, love the Office references. Although I think I'm gonna wait for a girl to take ME to Jamaica. And I enjoy wallowing as well. Probably a bit too much. Definitely wallowed in NY after the break up, but now I'm back in sunny California, time to move forward I suppose.

Rebecca, thanks for the kind words! I'm going to assume you're amazing for thinking I'm amazing. =) But no, she's not nuts. She's actually amazing too. SIGH.

Swishy, indeed they are.

Megan, I'll definitely have to check out "Mexico".. I've loved every song I've heard by Jump Little Children.

Hi me, thanks for the encouragement! 9 Crimes is super sad.. that song's about cheating right? Another good Oasis song that didn't make the cut is "Don't Look Back In Anger"...

Hey Josh, you're quite welcome, glad you enjoyed the songs. Four eps left.. I really don't know what to do with myself. Shoot me in the face.

Mo Diggs, haha, if ANYONE goes for Piz, shoot a flaming arrow through his chest. Actually shoot him regardless. Thank you.

Anonymous, funny thing is the actual 14 year old me, back in '95, was pretty heinous. Actually that's when I had my first kiss, and my first break-up. And it all comes full circle.

Brandon, I will definitely be checking out those songs. Is it just me or is Cary Brothers much better live than on recordings?

LovelyAnomaly, I've received the good thoughts you sent, and I thank you. =) And I will Netflix "Hope Floats"... actually, probably not, but thank you.

Hi Krissi, "Love Stinks" almost made this list as well! Good tune. Thanks for the support!

Vaedri, thanks for the comment, I'm glad the tunes have helped!

Caroleen, that pretty much sounds like my standard Saturday night. =) But also add eating cookie dough for dinner and lots of alcohol.

Tiff, you have good taste.

Michelle, gotta love the comfort in communal shittiness. I love peanut butter. Thanks for the kind words!

Nic, I have yet to watch Happy Endings, is it any good? I will check out the soundtrack for suresies. How's settling into CA going for you?

Hi Scribe, thanks for the virtual hug. I'm bummed I missed yet ANOTHER Getty meetup. When's the next one?? The Scientist is a classic ache song, love the music video. How goes the writing?

Everyone, another song I forgot to mention was "Fake Plastic Trees"... love the last verse... you all should check out Lori McKenna's cover.. actually does anyone have it to send to me?

2:01 AM  
Anonymous Maria said...

This came to my mind when reading your latest post. It might sound cheesy, but here it is:

Maybe getting over someone you’re in love with isn’t impossible. Unless, maybe you don’t actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it. - Felicity

So many people care for you!

Your break-up music kit is awesome!

4:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the rhett miller/rachael yamagata song is one of my favorites-- hadn't heard that before. you'll have to ask my sister, kelly (@ gonzaga), about the time i snuck her into the rachael yamagata show with a fake ID because she was only 17. ah, memories. :) thanks again for fantastic music; you've turned me on to a lot of new stuff.

6:31 AM  
Blogger Alexander said...

Hey, sorry about your breakup. I just had one too - its sucks-a-million. I think I became a statistic too. Fickleness - thy name is woman.

The New Pornos song "Bleeding Heart Show" is about two people who obviously don't work together, trying to force a relationship. You have to look the lyrics through a bit, but that's what it appears to be.

"It's as if I picked your name out of hat" and stuff like that. take a look at the lyrics.

Cheer up! (or drink a lot - whichever) :)

7:19 AM  
Anonymous Sonja said...

Sorry about your breakup.
My boyfriend broke up with me two months ago and I still tremble when people ask me something about him. I listened a lot to Tim Hardin: "How can we hang on to a dream", Leonard Cohen: "Hey, that's no way to say Goodbye" and of course Black Rebel Motorcycle Club. It really helped me. I wish you all the best.
(Thank you for the music).

8:24 AM  
Blogger Kat said...

It makes me feel slightly better that I'm not the only one who had a relationship end on "National Break-Up Day" (and didn't know it was "NBUD" 'til after the fact)! I completely empathize with what you're going through. I was in the a/v section at Best Buy and started to secretly freak out when I saw a remote control like the one my former s.o. has. See? You're not the only one!

Your break-up playlist is really awesome. A lot of the songs were already in rotation on the iPod, so I'll have to add the others to the mix for the days when I'm not done crying. Lately I've thought about writing something comprised only of lines from currently-relevant songs in order to express my full-on heartbreak/denial/anger/etc. Maybe you should try it. Heck, maybe I should try it seeing as how I'm the one who came up with it.

Anyway, keep plugging away at life. If you want to listen to an album that will both let you immerse yourself in heartbreak but also provide a little healing, check out John Mayer's "Continuum" -- it's really helped me.

Also, here's a good anonymous quote (because everyone knows quotes help get you through tough times): "Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference. "

Sorry for the long comment! :)

12:17 PM  
Blogger Kavina said...

oh you poor soul... i could tell you there are other fish in the sea and she wasn't worth the wonderfullness of you but sometimes, moping is good. and i, as young as i might be, know that a period of mourning is always necessary to truly move on from a relationship before you heave-ho yourself up and prepare yourself to face the world.
i'm so glad you wrote. 2007 has so far been a bitch to me too. in a completely different way, as it may be (won't bore you with the utter mundane sadness of it all..)
but now you have 30-something's sympathies to carry you along. and that should matter. even though, technically, we're not very real.
but then there's always the imagination...
i think i have that lori mckenna cover you're talking about. shall send if it is under my ownership...
chin up captain...even the worst of times come to an end - time is a forgiving soul,
xx

1:19 PM  
Anonymous fmc said...

Sorry about the breakup. I had a mix quite similar to yours on my ipod for a while. Life kinda sucks sometimes. Anyway, a couple of songs I would add to your list would be "Broken One" by Luke Doucet & "Ashes" by Ben Harper (although I think this song might be the most depressing song ever).

4:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am really sorry about your breakup, and I wish you well. ... But this is one damn great breakup mix! Thanks so much! I've been listening for a couple days straight, and none of it's gotten old yet.

4:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

not to be insenstive, but where's the grey's music?

7:08 PM  
Anonymous Kim said...

Shit man, I'm guessing we're both statistics then? My break-up was more a forceful tearing apart as my guy is moving to live O.S. but it's practically as bad, and I'm loving the soundtrack to my January. More to the point, about 50% of the songs were already on my depressed playlist. Though you should include Falling Awake by Gary Jules - in fact, anything by Gary Jules would me sufficiently depressing.

11:56 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

I have no suggestions of songs and what not - just offering my sympathy.

9:01 AM  
Anonymous check sanity said...

Ditto to what Jen said. My sincere sympathies and a bit of empathy thrown in there as well. I suggest ice cream cake and lots of it stat!! Or else something ooey and gooey that'll help melt your sorrows away. Thanks for bringing back the music! Although I must admit I had to wait until I was in a medium to low mood to actually start listening to it. Can't wait until your "hearts a flutter" to see what you have in store for us then. Until then... "solder on". (I have no idea why all these cliche's are oozing out of me...)

7:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You should be selling iPods with all these playlists pre-loaded on to them

The Office Rocks

8:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

great, great mix. but i also want to say that one of the best post-break up songs is "without you" - harry nilsson version (badfinger cover), the near-suicidal-desperation quality of his voice is unmatched...although Jimmy Gnecco possibly comes close.

10:51 AM  
Blogger Kamiu said...

sorry to hear things didn't work out for you! i read this blog pretty regularly..you're doing a great job with it. give me a holler whenever you are back in ny!

laura/kamiu

11:00 AM  
Anonymous Laura said...

Hey Sonny:
So sorry that you're going through a bad time. Your mix pretty much captures break-ups. Cheer up--it'll get better--it just has to. Although for a more depressing setting, I suggest you listen to your mix somewhere cold and snowy, where we've seen the sun for a significant amount of time, just once...in the past 7 days. Glad you're writing again! :) We're totally Team Captain Oats!!--(if there were one, haha).

4:08 PM  
Anonymous Jonathan said...

Captain Oats, here is another meaningless (and somewhat insensitive) platitude: "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger". I promise you'll feel happy again, and you will be a better person for the experience. Thanks as always for the music.

5:02 PM  
Anonymous Sunshine said...

Hey there,

Onwards and upwards, right?

Thanks for channeling your energy into such a great song list and sharing it with us (as always). And thanks for posting "God Give Me Strength." When I had my last big "breakup," my roommate begged me to stop playing that song (the version sung in the film). It's the ultimate breakup song in my book.

I'm a BIG fan of "Grace of my Heart" and would love to hear what you think of it when you get a chance. Fabulous cast, moving story, and great soundtrack.

Best of luck to you for the rest of 2007!

8:36 PM  
Blogger Captain Oats said...

Hi Maria, I loved Felicity and I love taht quote. So much so that I even forwarded it to my ex. Thanks!

Hi Anonymous, Kelly told me you'd be commenting, and I'm so happy you did! Glad to see the SPD love runs in the family! =)

Alexander, thanks for the "Bleeding Heart Show" interpretation. Re-reading the lyrics now, it makes sense. Hope your recovery process/drinking is going well too.

Sonja, great suggestions! Love Leonard Cohen, I was about to put "So Long, Marianne" on there as well.

Kat, I can't believe your relationship also ended on NBUD! And thanks for openly admitting your love for a John Mayer song, I was publicly flogged the last time.

Kavina, thanks for the email and the comment. Sorry to hear that 2007 has been a bitch for you too. We should go egg 2007's house together.

Hey fmc, thanks for the song suggestions. I hadn't heard "Ashes" before, and you were spot on with your description. Most depressing song ever.

Hi Anonymous, I'm glad you enjoyed the tunes!! Hopefully you haven't slit your wrists yet!

Hey Anon, I was gonna upload the Jann Arden song "Insensitive" just for you, but decided to use that time to track down some Grey's songs instead. Check back tomorrow for a full Musical Monday.

Hi Kim, sorry to hear about your relationship woes. That Gary Jules song is so sad. I believe it will be in tomorrow's Musical Monday, though I imagine you already have it. Here's to depressing playlists!

Hey Jen, sympathy is always welcome here. =)

Hey check sanity, Lord, do I love ice cream cake. If anyone would like to send me ice cream cake, you know my email. We can make it happen!

Hi Anonymous, the Office does rock!

Hey Anon, Harry Nilsson is indeed great break-up music. Have you heard "Alimony Song"? The Walkmen do a great cover of it.

Laura! Long time no talk! Hope things are going well for ya... I was actually just in NY right after the break-up, didn't know you were there. Holler if you're ever in LA!

Hey Laura, will you make Team Captain Oats shirts too? That would make my day. =)

Hi Jonathan, you're welcome for the music, and thank you for the kind words!

Hi Sunshine, love your moniker. Or if that's your real name, love it even more. Yeah, "God Give Me Strength" is such an amazing song, I will definitely Netflix "Grace of My Heart" and let you know my thoughts... thanks for the encouragement!

10:00 PM  
Anonymous kiran said...

hey, sympathy ass is still ass. reap the rewards, my little displaced west coast honey bunny.

7:48 PM  
Anonymous kiran said...

um...too soon?

7:49 PM  
Blogger Bumpyminion said...

Dance me to the end of love by Leonard Cohen is great too, although Madeline Peyroux's cover is decent.

5:18 AM  
Blogger Amy said...

Hey Captain! I'm a Harrisburg girl myself. Hburg chicks tend to be heartbreakers. It is a little known fact. I've broken a few hearts in my lifetime. But...at least there's solace in knowing she' stuck in this lame town and you're in sunny Cali, with an amazing life ahead of you. It's currently 29 degrees and overcast here. Gloomy day=Harrisburg, PA. Harrisburg is less of a city now that you won't be visiting anytime in the near future. Chin up my dearest!

9:05 AM  
Anonymous Nonny said...

So sorry to hear about your heartache, but I know you'll pull through. You deserve so much better! Things will be better in the spring.
I loved reading through your tracklisting and look forward to listening - my iPod has a suggestion for your list though, or I'm taking it as a suggestion as it literally started playing this as I started reading. "Picture of My Life" by Jamiroquai. It was kinda creepy, actually.
Stay sweet and keep up the good work - I love your blog!

10:08 AM  
Blogger Captain Oats said...

Hey Kiran, haha yes too soon. =) And I believe you still have not written back to a little email I sent your way.

Bumpyminion, awesome suggestion. Will definitely check out Peyroux's cover too!

Hi Amy, thanks for the kind words! My ex actually lives in Huntingdon. The Harrisburg part was when I took a $200 cab ride from Huntingdon to Harrisburg to catch the lone remaining Greyhound bus to NY in the "area" at 12 am on a Saturday night. =) But I will take your word for it and avoid Hburg chicks as well!

Hi nonny, thanks for the encouragement, much appreciated! I will check out that Jamiroquai song! Thanks for reading!

4:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

aww..i'm sorry about your break-up! Hopefully its the last of your bad luck for this year...have a great rest of the year...great job with the blog..thank you and things will definitely get better!!hang in there!
xoxo

7:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just wanted to add: your taste in music is incredible..thanks for introducing us to a lot of amazing artists! Hope you are doing better! Aja aja fighting!

7:51 PM  
Blogger Captain Oats said...

Hey Anonymous, thanks for the encouraging words. Really appreciate them!

Hi Anon, your music taste must be incredible as well to recognize my incredibly music taste. =) And thanks, I am doing a bit better...

7:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I really enjoyed reading this entire blog. Some artists I've never heard of. Here are a few others to add to the list:

Lydia "Your taste is my attention"
Jose Gonzalez "Heartbeats"

and my personal favorite...
The Who "Love Reign O'er me"

12:04 PM  
Anonymous Piney said...

Capt,
I love your blog. Great tunes here. I find myself always coming back.

4:50 PM  
Blogger emily garnhart said...

I found your blog interesting and useful. I added your blog to my favorites and i will come to visit again tomorrow. I have a blog about how to get him back after a break up :)

4:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

aww..i'm sorry about your break-up! Hopefully its the last of your bad luck for this year...have a great rest of the year...great job with the blog..thank you and things will definitely get better!!hang in there!
xoxo

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