Hello friends, I have missed you all. Terribly sorry for disappearing on everyone. The reason was three-fold:
1) Things kinda hit rock-bottom in my personal life. All the while, my writing partner and I were juggling four feature projects, as well as prepping for staffing season, so the little will power I had went to writing.
2) I'd only been home five days in the past three weeks. Between flying to Chicago for the family, flying to PA to see the girlfriend, and Greyhounding it to NY for my well-being, it's been a bit hectic.
3) While visiting the lady in PA, I was dumped. I took it pretty hard to say the least.
But ultimately, I think we all know that the real reason I've been standing on high ledges lately is because The OC's last day is quickly approaching. WTF, Fox. At least let them finish out a full season. W.T.F.
But I'm back now, bitches. And in the words of one of the greatest lyricists of the 20th century, Chumbawumba, "I get knocked down, but I get up again. You're never gonna keep me down."
On a side note, the break-up occured on the same day Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake called it quits. Apparently, Drew Barrymore and Fabrizio are done as well. I know, I know, stock up on bottled water, stay indoors, the end is very f-in nigh.
According to this blog, the research in a recent survey indicates that "most people reasses their relationships at the beginning of the year - between New Years and Valentine's Day," and January 11th, the day of my dumping, which Yahoo! has decided to dub National Break Up Day, is "the peak day for hitting bottom." Awesome. It feels good to be a statistic.
I don't know how personal I want to get on here, but a friend of mine suggested blogging about it, seeing as how I actually met Ms. X through this blog. The story puts the movie, The Break-Up (B), to shame (which you should rent sometime, it is painfully realistic). Our tale starts with a lot of good, ends with a lot of bad, but in terms of specifics, I suppose there's no point in airing out dirty laundry. Actually, I probably would air it out had it been something insignificant, like dirty socks, but this is like the "boxers with cutesy hearts, arrows and 'i heart [significant others' name]' across the back that life swipes from you to shat upon multiple times only to return with a note that reads 'she never loved you'" kind of laundry. What? You don't have a pair like that?
One of the worst post-break-up symptoms is having every single insignificant thing remind you of the other person. For example, the other day, I was walking down the street and saw a sign for "Fruits and Vegetables," my ex is a vegetarian. Down another block and I spot a Duane Reade, my ex reads (yes, literacy is one of my many high standards). Down the street some more and I see an Arabic sign I could not understand, but I'm told it said, "Nothing In This World Will Ever Stop the Pang You Feel In Your Chest Right Now... Deli."
But getting serious for a moment, I actually do care about this person still. A lot. Though I was the one being dumped, I think it has been equally brutal for both parties. And now this blog really is sounding like a 14 year-old's LiveJournal.
So anyway, if I'm not gonna go into juicy details, then why bring this up at all on here?
Well, click below, and I can tell you one positive outcome for you readers in all of this:
THE BREAK-UP MIX
Crushing My Silly Pipe Dreams '07
That's right folks, a break-up mix. I have enough favorites to fill a thousand cds, it's taken me hours just to narrow it down to these 75 songs. Yes, I overpack for trips too. This isn't necessarily a list of my favorites (songs like "With or Without You" and "Pictures of You" would be on a favorite list), but rather, just a handful of songs I thought you would enjoy, songs that track the different post-break-up stages. They don't necessarily reflect the thoughts and opinions of yours truly, though some certainly do. Whether you've been the breaker or the breakee, leave a comment and let me know your favorite songs and sob stories!
P.S. If you liked this post, you might also like "Love is a Mix-Tape" by Rob Sheffield. Read it, and let me know!
P.P.S. I know many of you were just hoping for latest episode tracks, but I still have to catch up with my DVR. You can break my legs later.
1. "I'm Going Down" - Bruce Springsteen [buy album]
A pre-break-up song. The dude knows it's coming... "I pull you close, but when we kiss I can feel a doubt. I remember back when we started, my kisses used to turn you inside out. I used to drive you to work in the morning, Friday night I'd drive you all around. You used to love to drive me wild, but lately girl, you get your kicks from just driving me down."
2. "This Mess We're In" - PJ Harvey (w/Thom Yorke) [buy album]
3. "It's Time" - Elvis Costello [buy album]
My all time favorite break-up song by, on most days, my favorite artist. How great are these lyrics? Well not "great" as in "yay, it's so great this is happening to me," but rather, "wow, spot on, that was great."
4. "Fireflies" - Rhett Miller (w/Rachael Yamagata) [buy album]
5. "If You Leave" - Nada Surf (OMD cover) [buy album]
Like most 25 year old males, I naturally think of "The Goodbye Girl" episode of the OC. Great cover. If you read the blog regularly, you already know of my undying love for all things Nada Surf, you should also check out their version of "There Is A Light That Never Goes Out."
6. "Seen It All Before" - Amos Lee [buy album]
I usually find all the "Starbucks" artists kinda eh, but this man can sing. "Go ahead baby, run away again. Growing tired of chasing you. I know you only have time to love me, you've got nothing better to do."
7. "Lost Cause" - Beck [buy album]
This song would be WAY up there on a favorite break-up songs list. This entire album would. Utterly depressing and honest, it's my favorite Beck album. I've always enjoyed the video too.
8. "Good Woman" - Cat Power [buy album]
How I want to remember the ex.
9. "Communication" - The Cardigans [buy album]
For those of you that have dismissed The Cardigans as a one-hit wonder with "Love Fool," you are bad, bad people. They have some amazing songs in their catalogue. This is one of them.
10. "A Letter to Elise" - The Cure [buy album]
I almost decided to do all Cure and Smiths songs for this list. But then one of you would've offed yourself, and I just didn't want to be held responsible for that. Seriously though, how awesome is this song? Way up there on the best break-up songs of all time list.
11. "The Bleeding Heart Show" - The New Pornographers [buy album]
My favorite New Pornographers track, the ending of this song blows my mind every time. Not exactly sure what the song's about, but it involves a bleeding heart, so it works.
12. "Gone for Good" - The Shins [buy album]
13. "Last Goodbye" - Jeff Buckley [buy album]
Has this song ever not been on a break-up mix?
14. "Where It Ends" - Boy In Static
Boy In Static is an amazing emerging artist; he is also a good friend from college I used to play music with, back when he was better known as Alex Chen. He was on The Notwist's European label and recently switched over to Mush Records. In the past two years, he's released his first album and toured US and Europe with 13 & God (side project of The Notwist and Themselves). This track, a song he actually wrote prior to a break-up, is going to be on his upcoming album, Violet, which hits stores May 29th, so go show some love! In the meantime, check out his myspace, especially his lyrics.
15. "Look What You've Done" - Jet [buy album]
Sure, it's a blatant Beatles ripoff, but it's a good ripoff.
16. "Caroline No" - The Wedding Present (Beach Boys cover)
17. "Excuse Me While I Break My Own Heart Tonight" - Whiskeytown [buy album]
18. "For No One (live)" - Elliott Smith (Beatles cover)
I wanted to post the Beatles song, but I'm pretty sure I'd get sued. Next best thing is an Elliott Smith's Beatles cover. Also check out his cover of Lennon's "Jealous Guy."
19. "Telescope Eyes" - Eisley [buy album]
20. "Let It Die" - Feist [buy album]
As you'll see, there are a handful of OC songs on this list. If only my life were a teen dramedy and my rebound girl could be an Olivia Wilde who likes to make out with other girls.
21. "Get Me Away From Here, I'm Dying" - Belle & Sebastian [buy album]
Love the lyrics. "Here on my own now after hours, here on my own now on a bus." That was me last week, on a Greyhound at 3 a.m. from Harrisburg to NY, sitting behind two gentlemen openly talking about drug deals gone wrong.
22. "One Foot In Front Of The Other" - Bright Eyes [buy album]
I was debating between this and "I Believe in Symmetry" as my sole Bright Eyes contribution, but the lyrics for this song won out. Also check out "I've Been Eating (For You)".
23. "My Heart Is The Worst Kind Of Weapon" - Fall Out Boy [buy album]
I can't hide it, I absolutely love Fall Out Boy. Hmm, maybe that's why I got dumped...
24. "Rootless Tree" - Damien Rice [buy album]
The chorus: "Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, and all we've been through." I heart subtlety.
25. "Dog Problems" - The Format [buy album]
The Format is one of the most underrated bands out there right now. Their first album was pretty good, but they've really matured with their latest. Also check out "I'm Actual," "Inches and Falling," and "If Work Permits." They also put on my favorite concert of 2006.
26. "Die, Die My Darling" - The Misfits [buy album]
27. "Bitches Ain't Shit" - Ben Folds (Dr. Dre cover) [buy album]
If we're going through the five stages of grief here, this would be under Acceptance. I kid, I suppose this goes under Anger. One of my favorite covers ever. Of course, can't mention Ben Folds and break-ups without referencing "Song for the Dumped". Last week, I lived out the line, "Wish I hadn't bought you dinner right before you dumped me on your front porch."
28. "Happier" - Guster [buy album]
29. "Blue in the Face" - Alkaline Trio [buy album]
Every break-up mix should have some form of Alkaline Trio on there.
30. "Against All Odds" - The Postal Service (Phil Collins cover) [buy album]
31. "And So It Goes" - Billy Joel [buy album]
Saddest. Song. Ever.
32. "Last Night I Dreamt That Somebody Loved Me" - Grant Lee Phillips (Smiths cover) [buy album]
Grant Lee also did a great cover of The Cure's "Boys Don't Cry" (another song I wanted to post), which was featured on How I Met Your Mother.
33. "Pain In My Heart" - Otis Redding [buy album]
And this is where we enter the Depression stage of grieving.
34. "Unspoken Words" - Showoff [buy album]
My friend Devin introduced me to this song. I believe at the time it had helped him through a break-up. Way to pay it forward, Dev. I hate you. Check out the group's myspace for another good pop-punk post-break-up song, "Turn Out The Lights."
35. "Love Hurts" - Roy Orbison (Boudleaux Bryant cover) [buy album]
I suppose I could've posted the Cher or Nazareth version, but I know we all love us some Orbison.
36. "The World Has Turned and Left Me Here" - Weezer [buy album]
The Blue Album never gets old. A million memories associated with this album.
37. "Since You're Gone" - The Cars [buy album]
38. "Another Lonely Day" - Ben Harper [buy album]
39. "Take It Down" - Patty Griffin
"Tears all rusted on my face, and I'm just an empty place, where your love used to fit." Awesome.
40. "What Can I Say" - Brandi Carlile [buy album]
Brandi, I know how you feel, call me.
41. "Crying (live)" - Jimmy Gnecco (Roy Orbison cover)
Hands down, Jimmy Gnecco, lead singer of Ours, has the best male voice in the history of contemporary music. Recordings do not do him justice. GO SEE HIM LIVE.
42. "What Difference Does It Make?" - The Smiths [buy album]
All Smiths songs are great for the broken-hearted, so I just picked one out of a hat. Fortuantely, this happens to be one of my favs. I also wouldn't have minded "I Know It's Over."
43. "Toby Take A Bow" - Casiotone For The Painfully Alone [buy album]
Speaking of the Smiths, gotta love the lyrics here: "I've never seen you so awful, I found you at the bottom of a Russian novel. Gold medal and a crown, a cardigan and a frown. So maladjusted and clever, the greatest Smiths fan ever."
44. "Burn" - Ray LaMontagne [buy album]
45. "God Give Me Strength (live)" - Elvis Costello
Written for the movie "Grace of My Heart", the lyrics are painful and amazing. I think I remember first hearing this when Costello performed it live on Letterman and being rendered speechless. Still need to Netflix "Grace of My Heart". Anyone seen it? I also recommend the following: "I Hope You're Happy Now," "She," "I Want To Vanish," "Big Tears," "Indoor Fireworks," and every song Costello has ever written. With the exception of a few tracks off of "Goodbye Cruel World."
46. "You Have Killed Me" - Morrissey [buy album]
I don't get any of the references to the Italian figures in this song, but all I need to hear is the repetition of "you have killed me, you have killed me" and I'm right there with ya, Morrissey.
47. "It's a Motherfucker" - Eels [buy album]
Also listen to "I'm Going To Stop Pretending That I Didn't Break Your Heart".
48. "Oh, Lonesome Me" - Neil Young (Don Gibson cover) [buy album]
I like the line, "I'll bet she's not like me, she's out and fancy free. Flirting with boys with all her charms, but I still love her so, and brother don't you know, I'd welcome her right back here in my arms."
49. "Lost In Time" - Stellastarr* [buy album]
Lyrically, "On My Own" is probably their best break-up song, but I wanted to ease you readers into the wonderfulness that is Stellastarr*. My ex actually introduced me to their music, so at the very least, I know we met for a reason. The Smiths meets U2 with a female bassist who sings? How had I gone so long without them?? Check out this song, then go see them live on their upcoming tour. Anyone in LA wanna check them out on Feb.7th?
50. "Graduation Day" - Chris Isaak [buy album]
51. "You Are My Sunshine" - Johnny Cash (Jimmie Davis or Rice Brothers? cover) [buy album]
Also wanted to go with "I Still Miss Someone" and "Cry, Cry, Cry".
52. "There Is A Light That Never Goes Out" - Joseph Arthur (Smiths cover) [buy album]
53. "Love of My Life" - Queen [buy album]
Another group that my ex opened my eyes too. Sure, I had enjoyed Queen prior to meeting her, but I hadn't fully explored the Queen catalogue. Freddie Mercury was a god amongst men. I said above that Jimmy Gnecco has the best voice in the history of contemporary music, but Freddie is a very, very close #2.
54. "Can't Let Go" - Lucinda Williams [buy album]
55. "I Want You" - The Kooks [buy album]
56. "Nothing Better" - The Postal Service [buy album]
Love the lyrics, the back and forth between the guy and girl. Of course, it's the girl that's leaving. What? Ladies are leavers, it's true. You look up 'leaver' in the dictionary, and right there next to it is a picture of ladies.
57. "I Don't Want To Get Over You" - The Magnetic Fields [buy album]
Another drastically underrated band. Their three-volume album, "69 Love Songs," can pretty much get you through any up or down of a relationship. I was torn between this track and "All My Little Words" for this post, but I decided to go a little light-hearted instead. And by a little light-hearted, I mean still pretty depressing.
58. "I Just Don't Think I'll Ever Get Over You" - Colin Hay [buy album]
59. "You've Got To Hide Your Love Away" - Eddie Vedder (Beatles cover) [buy album]
60. "Do What You Have To Do" - Sarah McLachlan [buy album]
I know what you're thinking. Fall Out Boy, John Mayer and Sarah McLachlan all on one mix? I'm starting to realize why I'm again single, it's all making sense now. But come on, you know you've listened to the entire Surfacing album in one sitting, right before you settled down to crochet while watching A Walk To Remember. No? I'm the only one? Mother of God.
61. "I'll Miss You" - Ween [buy album]
62. "Dry Your Eyes" - The Streets [buy album]
What my life looks like these days. Well, add smog, traffic, and a lot of annoying people everywhere.
63. "Recovery Room" - The Jealous Sound [buy album]
64. "Pretty Pathetic" - Smoking Popes [buy album]
65. "Since U Been Gone" - Ted Leo (Kelly Clarkson cover)
I've yet to meet anyone that doesn't like (or secretly like) this Kelly Clarkson song. If you don't, let's never meet.
66. "We're Just Friends" - Wilco [buy album]
67. "Winter" - Joshua Radin [buy album]
I loved the use of this song on the "My Screw Up" episode of Scrubs.
68. "Dear Chicago" - Ryan Adams [buy album]
69. "Comfortable" - John Mayer [buy album]
John Mayer recently blogged a solution to all the recent Grey's Anatomy backstage drama: Make Dr. Burke Gay. Love that idea. Also love these lyrics.
70. "Daisychains" - Youth Group [buy album]
Also featured on "The Summer Bummer" episode of the OC.
71. "Your Ex-Lover Is Dead" - Stars [buy album]
72. "Somebody That I Used To Know" - Elliott Smith [buy album]
Elliott's got a plethora of heartache songs to choose from, actually wait, that's the only type of songs he has to choose from. This is his ultimate "I'm over you" song though. You also can't go wrong with "Waltz #1", "Waltz #2", "Miss Misery"... the list is endless.
73. "If You See Her, Say Hello" - Bob Dylan [buy album]
It was tough keeping it to one Dylan song for this mix. He has so many brilliant lyrics about love gone wrong. "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright," "Abandoned Love," "I Threw It All Away," "Farewell Angelina".... all genius. What's your favorite Dylan track?
74. "It'll All Work Out" - Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers [buy album]
The lyrics are perfection. Almost makes me want to rent Elizabethtown (a movie my ex and I had been meaning to watch together). While we're talking Tom Petty, you should also check out "Change of Heart."
75. "You Can't Always Get What You Want" - Rolling Stones [buy album]
But you get what you need. Sing it brother, sing it.
*EDIT: Some GREAT recommendations in the comments. Thank you all. I've even posted two new links in the comment section, but I had to add one here that I had completely overlooked until I was reminded tonight; it definitely needs to be on this break-up mix:
76. "I Fall To Pieces" - Patsy Cline
We Are Scientists "covering" one of the best break-up songs of all time.
While we're doing ridiculous covers, here's my junior high friend, Jesse Lukes, performing his awesome take on Britney Spears' "Hit Me Baby One More Time."
One of my favorite scenes from The Office.
My favorite scene from The Office.
After watching the above Office clip, it's almost impossible not to laugh during this music video. Good to see Mischa again though, reminds me of the earlier seasons of the OC. Ah, such simpler times. Simpler times.
I just wanted to post this so I could quote: "Love doesn't exist, that's what I'm trying to tell you guys. And I'm not picking on love, 'cause I don't think friendship exists either."